Life can sometimes be very confusing. We try to walk a spiritual path, with acceptance and forgiveness. We smile and generous blessing to all who cross our path. We meditate and pray, but how can we deal with negative people when their anger is directed against us?
We are all still people, and we have feelings and egos, yes. For those aggressive, angry that we face, it is sometimes difficult to keep that ego in check. Dealing with someone who acts out of fear and uncertainty can also be very hard. As can easily thwart a violent aggressor and still hold true, our beliefs and spirituality? It is a difficult road, but I can few basic proposal, which I have contributed enormously in the years to offer.
Be guided mind.
Always trust your higher self to you, run the right course of action. Listen to your inner voice and recognize your feelings, what you say. Separate I thought of retaliation and the Defense of, loving care for the feelings of your soul. Remember that the ego will always defend by attacking or retreating, we need to know, and to reduce our ego and our spiritual higher self. When we think and act of love, we will always take appropriate action.
Try to see and tell me their opinions.
Sometimes can understand the motives behind peoples actions if we want to reflect on their situation. Remember, there is no right or wrong, there are only views and different opinions. Try to see the other side of the disagreement. If you know the abuse you, unwarranted, and you can not see the truth or motivation behind the situation, quietly listening to what they say. You disagree with them, but do not try to know why they are as they are operating. Listen carefully to what they say. You can rebut with something too, I understand that you make a certain way and I may do something to cause these feelings, but I do not intend to cause this situation. This does not my intention and I apologize. I hope you feel better soon, and if there is anything I can do to help, please let me know “It’s that simple.
Let them speak, and is interested in what they say.
The ego is a simple thing to understand. Give her your full attention, and she is happy. If you are honest and listen to others, it satisfies the urgent need of attention, and they are less aggressive most of the time (anyway). As I said before, sometimes people want to be noticed and heard. So listen and let them know that you can see how they are really interested in their fate, even if the problem is with you. In responding to his name, always in the sentence. This makes them feel important and can reduce their anger even more. Answers May “Lisa, I understand what you say.” Or perhaps, I can see where you come from, Lisa. “And remember eye contact! Nothing says you’re interested in what anyone says more than direct eye contact.
The responsibility for your actions.
If it is something to create the problem, and the complaint is legitimate, the responsibility for your actions. . Excuse me offer reciprocity, or ask if you can do something to make them feel better. Mostly people just want to hear and apologized.
Do not accept the gift of anger, keep your cool.
One of my favorite Buddha stories goes like this: One day, a school student Light. The student was confronted with the anger and the Buddha. The Buddha sat quietly in meditation during his student days to rabies. Finally, the student asked the Buddha if he listen and he did not react with anger? The Buddha opened his eyes and politely said, “If I do not accept your gift of anger, adapting it, not your individual needs?” Keeping your cool and acting calmly during an angry confrontation, it does not give fuel to the fire. It takes two to tango, so if you are not the weapons, the potential confrontation, one person venting. Remember if in this situation, the other points in this article.
Appease their anger …
Apologizing and let them know you understand that your actions lead to stress. If someone pushing you, you can either reverse or make progress. Given the progress made solely to the proper depth of discord and creates out of a struggle, but through intelligent support, aggression is immediately defused. By removing the motivation of their advance, you can defuse the situation before hand. If you feel your anger rising in defense of your ego, immediately take a deep breath and find your center. Know that anger and negativity in your attacker only a mirror image of what is in them, not you. You are not negative things, this person told you. It’s just your offending a person must be negative insecurity and inner fears. Forgive them for they know not what they do or how, in accordance with general law.
Knowledge is power.
Know they really have the feeling that one reason for their negativity and aggression, but they do not know how mature message for you. We thank them for letting you know how they feel. Let them know you appreciate them for having the courage of this theme. React accordingly, but always a response of love and respect, not retaliation, protection and fear.
People say things can hurt our feelings, but as spiritual beings, we can our actions, to select these negative situations and let go. Your ego may want to let the person know that they hurt, but not yet. After the situation was defused, you can at a later date, you should tell your truth. If the person is someone you do not speak Whish, a letter from a place of love, compassion is the second author of an excellent tool to honor what you think.
Walking the spiritual path, we are not immune to the negativity of the world, but we can decide to act in accordance with spiritual law. We will always be charged if we choose the right action and not retaliate in defense of our egos. The Bible says the meek shall inherit the earth. A refresher course in miracles, that thought by saying that low will place on earth with their passive inner strength. So remember these words and the above suggestions the next time you’re faced with aggression and anger. Passive take the high road and let the soul and inner strength of the current situation.